Doa Buat Sahabat

Assalammualaikum w.b.t ....... ......... ......

Dengan Nama Allah Yang Maha Pemurah Lagi Maha
Mengasihani

Ya Allah ...
Panjangkanlah umur sahabatku. Kurniakanlah kesihatan
yang baik padanya,
terangi hatinya dengan nur pancaran iman. Tetapkanlah
hatinya,
perluaskanlah rezekinya, dekatkanlah hatinya kepada
kebaikan,
jauhkanlah hatinya pada kejahatan, tunaikanlah
hajatnya baik hajat dalam agama,dunia dan akhirat
.....


Ya Muhaimin ...
Jika dia jatuh hati izinkanlah dia menyentuh hati
seseorang yang hatinya tertaut pada-Mu agar tidak
terjatuh dia dalam jurang cinta nafsu ....
Jagalah hatinya agar tidak berpaling daripada
melabuhkan hatinya pada hati-Mu. Jika dia rindu,
rindukanlah dia pada seseorang yang merindui
syahid di jalan-Mu.


Ya Allah ...
Jangan biarkan sahabatku tertatih dan terjatuh dalam
perjalanan panjang
menyeru manusia kejalan-Mu.. jika kau halalkan aku
merindui sahabatku,
janganlah aku melampaui batas sehingga melupakan daku
pada cinta hakiki,
rindu abadi dan kasih sejati hanya untuk-Mu.


Ya Allah ...
kurniakanlah sahabatku kesenangan, ketenangan,
kecemerlangan dan hidayah dari-Mu dalam menempuh
cabaran serta liku-liku hidup di dunia dan di akhirat
kelak ... insya-Allah

AMIN

-Jepp-
Grik-KDN.My

DATING TIPS FOR MEN

Let’s face it, dates usually do not go as planned. Generally women go on a date with certain expectations of what we want to do, where we want to go, and most importantly what kind of a man we want. This is where dating tips for men can come in handy. Unfortunately you can’t control very many aspects of your date, but you can charm her with your character. These dating tips for men can help you evaluate what your weaknesses are, so you start working on any character turn-offs that you may have.

Lacking Confidence/ Insecure
Women are drawn to confident men. We want a leader and protector. If you lack confidence or are insecure about yourself, take some time to think about why. While you’re at it, think about all the positive qualities you have. Start building your confidence.

Lacking Goals/ No Ambition
The ultimate goal of dating for a woman is to find her perfect match and marry him. You will not get a second date if you are lazy or lack ambition. She wants a provider, a go getter, a man she can be proud of. Make some goals for yourself. What are you striving to achieve? Where do you want to be in 1, 5, and 10 years? These will make for great conversation on your date. Open up a little and let her know some of the things you are passionate about.

Too Serious/ Lacking Humor
Enjoy the night. Be lighthearted. Have fun. Most girls do not want a joker, but being too serious can really put a damper on the evening. Smile, laugh, tease a little. Don’t take your self too seriously. It will be intimidating and make for an intense and strained date. If she enjoys your company, she’ll want to spend more time together. Start charming her with your smile.

Negative
Negativity is not fun. Maybe your excuse is “I’m just being realistic”. Whatever your reason, she is not looking for a negative man. Chances are she has enough problems without you pointing out the negative side of everything else. There is always something positive in a negative situation. Try thinking differently for a change. Remember what your mother taught you, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” My suggestion is, think of something nice to say.

Smothering
Keep your independence. She wants to be pursued, not stalked. Remember she had a whole life of her own before you. Give her some space to do what she does and be who she is. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you are always right there, you’ll never give her a chance to miss you or think about you.

Self Pity
Poor, poor you. Are you 10 or 37. It’s time to put on your big boy shoes and grow up. If you really have issues hire a shrink, do not unload on your date. Either way, whatever it is, you need to get a ladder and get over it. Shit happens to everyone. Deal with it and move on. Women want a strong, confident man who can deal with issues.

Arrogant
So you thing you’re pretty cool huh. On the positive side, at least one of you will think you were great at the end of the night. Arrogance is confidence on steroids. Synonyms of arrogance are assuming (ass), bragger, conceited, egotistical, cocky. Just be you. Not the over the top version of you. Don’t tell her how great you are. Be the best you can be, so she can decide that you are the best guy ever.

Always Right
Be open minded and not stubborn. Your conversations will go much smoother. You don’t have to change your position on the topic, but take time to listen and consider the other side. It is really frustrating when a person always has to be right or is extremely (or even mildly) stubborn. You may want to check with your family and friends on this one. If you are one of those guys, chances are you won’t know it because you are, of course, always right.

Self-Centered
While it is good to share information about yourself, it is also good to ask questions. Try to listen and respond with a question, instead of your own story. Also when planning dates, ask what she would like to do, instead of only considering what you like. Make an effort to do things you both like and consider each other. Everything is not about you, what you like, what you want, when you want, etc. It’s great that you know what you desire, just don’t be overbearing and inconsiderate.

Never at Fault
Mature men take responsibility for their actions. If you make a mistake or hurt her feelings, just apologize. You may feel weaker, but it actually makes you look stronger. Apologizing doesn’t always mean that you are wrong, it can simply mean that you realize your action played a part in a misunderstanding.

These dating tips for men serve as a guide to help draw attention to some major turn-offs for women. Some of these dating tips for men may come easy for you, while a couple may have stood out as hard habits to break. Now that you know, take some time to think about how you can minimize these turn-offs and focus on your positive qualities.

-JePP-
MoIS, MY.

Menjaga Hati

Masih tertinggal bayanganmu
Yang telah membekas di relung hatiku
Hujan tanpa henti seolah bertanda
Cinta tak disini lagi kau telah berpaling

Biarkan aku menjaga perasaan ini
Menjaga segenap cinta yang telah kau beri
Engkau pergi aku takkan pergi

Kau menjauh aku takkan jauh
Sebenarnya diriku masih mengharapkanmu

Masih adakah cahaya rindumu
Yang dulu selalu cerminkan hatimu
Aku takkan bisa menghapus dirimu
Meskipun kulihat kau kini diseberang sana

Andai akhirnya kau tak juga kembali
Aku tetap sendiri menjaga hati
Sejujurnya aku masih mengharapkanmu

-JePP-
MoIS, MY

Lelaki Sejati

Aku bertanya pada Ibuku, bagaimanakah lelaki sejati itu ?

Ibuku menjawab, Nak...

Laki-laki Sejati bukanlah dilihat dari bahunya yang
kekar, tetapi dari kasih sayangnya pada orang
disekitarnya....

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari suaranya yang
lantang, tetapi dari kelembutannya mengatakan
kebenaran.....

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari jumlah
sahabat di sekitarnya, tetapi dari sikap
bersahabatnya pada generasi muda bangsa...

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari bagaimana dia
di hormati ditempat bekerja, tetapi bagaimana dia
dihormati didalam rumah...

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari kerasnya
pukulan, tetapi dari sikap bijaknya memahami
persoalan...

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari dadanya yang
bidang, tetapi dari hati yang ada dibalik itu...

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari banyaknya
wanita yang memuja, tetapi komitmennya terhadap
wanita yang dicintainya...

Laki-laki sejati bukanlah dilihat dari jumlah tanggungjawab
yang dibebankan, tetapi dari tabahnya dia menghadapi
lika-liku kehidupan...

Laki-laki Sejati bukanlah dilihat dari rajinnya
membaca kitab suci, tetapi dari konsistennya dia
menjalankan apa yang ia baca..

-JePP-
MoIS, MY

Serenity

It is said that, 'You can't change the world but you can always change yourself.' So, if you and I start to change, then we have already begun changing the world. Just when you think things can't get any worse, they do. I've learned that life is like hour glass sand. Sooner or later, everything hits rock bottom, but all you have to do is be patience and wait for something to turn everything back around. I've also learned that things change, people change, and it doesn't mean you forget the past or try to cover it up; it simply means that you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn't mean giving up, it means accepting that some things weren't meant to be.

Love is the greatest feeling we will ever have, yet it is also one of the greatest sorrows. There is so much suffering, but then there are times when the crying, pain, and heartache is worth it. Those moments are perfect, they are right. Those moments make all the suffering worth while. It's those moments we should live for. Sometimes we must get hurt in order to grow, we must fail in order to know, Sometimes our vision clears only after our eyes are washed away with tears and sometimes our trusting hand that guides us through life won't always be there, and that's the time when you really grow up and face life for the first time. But that hand will always be close by.

Everything in life is temporary, because everything changes. That's why it takes great courage to love, knowing it might end anytime but having the faith it will last forever. Just keep the faith and let love lead the way. Everything will work out right if you let love lead the way.

Watching you walk out of my life hasn't made me bitter or cynical about love, but rather, it has shown me that if I wanted so badly to be with the wrong person, how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along. After a while I learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, and I learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security, and I begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises, and I begin to accept my defeats with my head up and my eyes open, with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child.

I learn to build all my roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans. After a while I learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So, plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And I learn that I really can endure... that I'm really strong, and really do have worth.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the strength to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

-JePP-
My Sweet Room
MoIS, MY.

Love and Insanity

Within the few months of my being hooked-up with a certain text room, one of the many things that I have learned is the parallelism of Love and Insanity. I came to realize that these two words are somewhat synonymous. This is manifested by the countless stories of experiences documented by different individuals there in that website. Love life with a plot a la telenovela, with a complete casting from supporting actors to the usual protagonists and antagonists - peers, parents or classmates to name a few. What do I see? I see insanity in a broad daylight. Love life recycled from one generation to the next. Insanity inherited by yet another group of people in the same environment at a different time. I find it insane considering that our way of life has indeed made a giant leap into what we call the future and yet the same old pains, troubles or problems haunt people's love life.
Define Love. Love is this. Love is that. Love is here. Love is there. There isn't a single definition for love. Worst is, one definition conflicts with the other. No, conflict is an understatement, contradict would have been better. In binary, a "1" is never a "0" and vice versa. Treating one as the other is insanity. Love bringing either happiness or sorrow, or sometimes both, is insanity. Does insanity define love? Or, is insanity love, in a negative form?
Let us get back to my previous example. That is an analogy illustrating insanity. Now, let's take love. We know that our love will get to nowhere but we take the risk of gambling with love. The result is we get hurt. And that is insanity. Foreseeing darkness ahead but still taking the courage to step into the dark. The result is disaster. In real life, it's like you know that he's married but what the hell! And that is love. Or, you can feel she cares for somebody but still you convince yourself that she loves you, because you love her. And again, that is love. And what about this latest crap? When you love someone you gave that someone the opportunity to hurt you. Isn't that insanity to the max or just plain masochism?
Do I speak justly then when I say that those who love are insane? Would you still love?
I assume that our answer to both questions is a unanimous "Yes!" with a capital Y and an exclamation point choreographed with a clenched fist and an authoritative facial expression to stress our certainty, unaware that we are already despising the word "logic". And again, that clearly manifests insanity.
We are used to saying the phrase "falling in love" to mean "being in love". Isn't it "to fall" connotes a negative meaning? Isn't it insanity then that we allow ourselves to "fall" in love? But wait, others say, "high with love", to mean addicted with love. Just the same, and addiction is even worse. To let our selves get "high" with love is again an act of insanity. To fall is to go down contradicting the word high. With these two contradicting results associated with love, setting love in front of a well-polished mirror, love vividly reflects insanity.
But despite this shocking analogy, I would still say, "If to love is to be insane, please, take all my sanity away." It is with pride that I'll shout to the world, "Call me insane because I am in love!"


"There is a time to let things happen, and a time to make things happen"

-JePP-
MoIS, MY.
11.02pm

PURSUIT YOUR DREAMS!

When you set out to make your dreams come true, does something stop you? Are you energized, motivated, enthusiastic, pleased and inspired right now? If not, don't settle, go for your dreams!
We may think we are committed to our goals and dreams but if they are not where we want them to be it's because we are giving up, somewhere along the line. We may justify giving up by saying it's too hard or I don't like aspects of it. Or that people or circumstances are in the way, but the truth is... when we give in, we are taking the easy and temporarily convenient way out.
There's a huge price to pay for not going for our dreams. The price is our life and our dreams fulfilled! Not to mention our happiness, our relationships, our vitality and our creativity. Deep down inside we know what we love to do. There are a hundred ways from Sunday to express that into the world. So lets get with the program of our lives and create it! Here's a few pointers on how to make that happen.
Know what you love to do... and start doing it right now! Your mind and thoughts have to be in alignment with the passion of your heart. This will pre-dispose you to right action and catapult you into your success! Start your business, grow your business, get a new job, start that book, paint the picture, just get out there and express yourself passionately, and when you do, watch out! That's when life lights up, gets exciting and full of energy and vitality!
Once you've taken action you must be persistent! This is where most of us fall off track, when things get a little difficult, or unclear or not so secure we lay down the dream, fold on our truth and buckle under the illusions of the outside world. We either think it's going to be dreamy like Hollywood or that it's unobtainable like speaking to people all over the world at any time! (hello the Internet)
Know this... Nobody can impact you unless you let them. Nothing can impact you unless you let it. Therefore nobody and nothing has any power over you. You have power over you...that's it! To think anything else is an excuse, an illusion, or a justification to play small in the matter of your goals and dreams. You are powerful beyond words and you have the energy, insight and vision to know exactly how to navigate through your life so that it works for you!
You will have hardships, you will have challenges and you will have setbacks. You would have all of that even if you didn't pursue the dream - even more so! So there's challenges... So what! It's part of life! After all this is the "learning planet" and all those setbacks become our greatest teachers. If you could just step back and look at it like a great big game of hockey or a game of tennis - we could simply say, "ok what's my next move?" Turn adversity into opportunity and you've got a winning play for any successful outcome!
There will be moments when you will want to quit. Don't ever quit! Going back to your old life may look more attractive in the midst of challenges but the reality of that is, you can never go back to the way it was. You are on the learning planet remember. If you weren't meant to be learning and growing and building right here...you would be on the "been there got the T-shirt planet"! Isn't it inspiring to know that we all get the privilege of learning on this planet and when we do, it's interesting, exciting and inspiring! Know that the harder you work, the luckier you will get. What ever you focus on expands. The more you focus on what you want, the more of what you want, will show up. Stop focusing on what isn't and keep your eye on what's possible. Focus on the good, focus on the abundance, focus on being grateful, focus on your vision and goals!
World leader in success principles, Jack Canfield says this, "Adversity and discouragement is inevitable. No matter how well you plan and how well you execute your plan, you are bound to meet with disappointments, adversity and failure along the way to your ultimate triumph. Sometimes, you'll encounter what seem like overwhelming odds. And sometimes, the Universe will test your commitment to the goal you're pursuing. The going may be hard, and may require you to refuse to give up while you learn new lessons, develop new parts of yourself, and make difficult decisions. And, adversity is what gives you the opportunity to develop your inner resources of character and courage. Adversity is a great teacher. It will test you and make you stronger. But you have to hang in there and not give up!" More than 4000 years ago in China, Confucius wrote: "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall."
This is the journey of the pursuit of your dreams. Jump over obstacles, move through fears and catapult into action and right results. Be a designer of solutions. Focus on the extraordinary and what has not been possible - up until you came along!
You are a very very powerful human being. And as I see you as this, so shall you be. Everyone around you is powerful, see them as this, and so shall they be! The way you observe your world, creates your world. That's just how powerful we are as human beings! Now that's amazing!


-JePP-
MoIS, MY.